A New Thought

I was on a crusade to eliminate so-so friends and only have great friends. Recently, however, I have spent some time thinking about that, and decided its not quite as crucial as I thought. Sure, it would be awesome to just have great friends. If all my friends could be great...but alas, different people place importance upon different things, and everyone lives their own lives. We outside of their lives cannot know everything about someone else's life. Also, surely my actions affect a person's view of our shared friendship (duh) and I may unknowingly be doing something that causes them to not be as close to me as some of my other friends. Perhaps we're just not like that. Anyhow, I have decided that even so-so friends are better than no friends at all. The key is to realize who is who and which is which, and then act accordingly.

Something I have learned recently is to not harbor anything about anybody or their actions. You have to put it all on the table as soon as an issue arises, so that everyone knows what the deal is. If you let it simmer and fester, it will just cause more issues. So when somebody pisses me off, I judge if its worth getting into or if I should just let it slide and get over it. Generally, if its a big deal, I know immediately, and we deal with it. There are a lot of little things that are only annoying because of the way I view them, and its important to realize which is which and go from there.

Recently I have re-established (without any premeditation or ulterior motives) contact with an old friend. It has been highly enjoyable, and I realize it will probably be short-lived, but I shall enjoy it while it is here, and think fondly of it after its gone, nothing more and not a bit less. On the other hand, I think contact with at least one, perhaps two, old friends is done forever, except perhaps a chance encounter at some unknown point in the future. And that's ok. Roll with the punches, eat what you have to to live, and every day you wake up is a good day. If you have ice cream, eat ice cream. If you don't, ok.